Still, Those Faithful Cubans is one of my all-time most popular posts and people search daily for information on the issue as the above β actual search terms from the last week β illustrate. But in generalβ¦. Often, as one reader pointed out, this is a complicit arrangement β more up front and out in the open than on the side.
I know men who have been married 20 years or longer and have kept the same mistress all the while. Polygamy without the papers I like to call it.
And trust me, this question has forced me to examine if my own moral code β faithful to a fault β is clouding my appreciation of the issue. Let me tell you: machismo here is as far from that as a Miami Cuban sandwich is from its Havana counterpart.
It has to be β Cuban women are too empowered, strong-willed, and educated to put up with that shit. In short, many of the fairer sex here replicate damaging stereotypes and patterns which prop up the macho paradigm see note 2.
Tolerating mistresses validates machismo for a simple reason: it is not a two-way street. Try taking and maintaining a lover just like your male partner and watch the mierda hit the fan. Can you tell? And the one-way street runs into carnal endeavors as well: while he may be hot for a threesome with another chick, cuidado if it occurs to you to suggest the same with another man.
