When I ended our relationship, Alvin took it pretty badly, but eventually he got over it. According to Alvin, he could see himself marrying Tanya some day. A year into his relationship with Tanya, Alvin asked to meet me alone for a drink after work. I thought this was an unusual request, seeing as he and Tanya were inseparable.
Nevertheless, I agreed to see him. When he arrived, I noticed that he was really nervous, so I asked him what was wrong. Looking extremely embarrassed, he confided that he lacked sexual experience and was afraid of disappointing Tanya in bed. He admitted that that experience had been a disaster and had made him question his abilities as a lover. Alvin was desperate not to make the same mistake with Tanya and begged me for advice. I know it seems strange or even inappropriate to be discussing sex with my ex-boyfriend, but Alvin and I had grown to become close friends who could talk about anything and everything.
My heart went out to Alvin that evening โ in his recounting, Tanya had told him that sex was very important to her. They had a strong emotional bond, but Alvin was freaking out about the possibility of coming across as not knowing what to do in bed.
So before he got sexually intimate with Tanya, he wanted some advice on how to please her. I was beyond stunned. I knew that Alvin was a sheltered guy, but this took the cake.
I explained that it would be a no-strings-attached arrangement and made it clear that I wanted nothing in return. I also got him to promise to never tell Tanya about our arrangement. It took a while for Alvin to accept my offer.
