I love my husband, but when it comes to sex, he has been, and still is, a year-old boy. At first I was a willing participant, but after years of his moping, cajoling, screaming, and disrespect, I lost interest.
Finally, several years ago, I decided to keep the relationship and family intact by agreeing to sex once a week. I had no family support, no money, a lack of self-esteem, and young children. Click here and scroll down to save your spot. But on this one thing we cannot agree. He does not take testosterone or engage in porn; he just wants sex with me. Do I continue to close my eyes and endure that 30 minutes once a week to enjoy the other 99 percent of my life?
Read about this arrangement here, originally from my book The Bitch is Back and reprinted in NextTribe. But that practice might apply more widely to younger couples. A survey reported in AARP a few years ago showed that of 8, people aged 50 or older, a full third in relationships reported rarely or never having sex; another almost-third—28 percent—said they do it only a couple of times a month, and eight percent once a month.
Only 31 percent of these couples said they have sex several times a week. Who knew? Actually, a lot of us. Okay, though, not that funny. How many hundred ads have you seen lately for Cialis and Viagra? Still, supposedly, sex is still good for us. It supposedly strengthens our vaginal walls, supposedly burns lots of calories really? Maybe in our 20s, when we were into stuff like Reverse Cowgirl, but … , and supposedly releases oxytocin, a hormone that makes us feel bonded.
I say supposedly because, as no doctor, I can tell you only what I hear, read, and experience myself. Which brings us to you, SOI.
