By Tracey Cox for MailOnline. It's one of society's big secrets that men's interest in sex has declined significantly over the years. Around 25 per cent of marriages in the UK and US are now sexless having sex less than once a month and the assumption that it's women turning to face the wall is wrong. In the UK, there's been a 40 per cent increase from the previous decade in the number of men claiming to have gone off sex.
There's a complex interplay of psychological, social and health factors contributing to the decline in men's sexual desire. But this doesn't make it any easier to deal with. While it's 'OK' for a woman to admit it, a man going off sex is still very much not OK.
Women feel embarrassed and ashamed when their husband doesn't desire them. It makes them feel unattractive, unloved and unwanted. Here, three women tell me what it feels like when your husband doesn't want to have sex with you. Stock image used. Charlotte, 35, has been married for six years. I'm 35, an influencer, and have more than 50, Instagram followers. I look good and get dozens of messages a day from men telling me how attractive I am. If only my husband agreed. We've had sex six times in two years.
We look like the perfect couple. My husband is handsome, he has a great job in finance, we have lots of money, loads of friends. Everyone thinks we have the perfect life: we holiday in glamorous places, eat at expensive restaurants.
Only a few close friends know my shameful little secret. I love sex. I'm not sure my husband ever did, looking back. We had lots of sex at the start but then it quickly dwindled down to once every 10 days or more. My husband blamed work and stress. He trades and starts work in the early hours and then has to sometimes entertain clients at night. His day is long and he's often exhausted. People envy bankers but there's a reason why they get paid so much: the job is overwhelming.
