During sex, my beautiful and brilliant new girlfriend often initiates the reverse cowgirl position β in other words, she is on top and facing away from me. She enjoys it, but I never cared much for this practice. As a result I pretty much zone out and fail to climax. Should I discourage her from doing this β and if so, how?
You need to discuss this, but try to be generous. Your girlfriend may have cleverly found a position that gives her the most pleasure given her specific anatomy and physiology β and yours. In that case it would be unwise and unfair to discourage her from doing it altogether. Instead, ask for what you need as well. Would that be OK? At least she is taking responsibility for her own orgasm β you need to do the same. Pamela Stephenson Connolly is a US-based psychotherapist who specialises in treating sexual disorders.
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