Here, thanks to recent studies , research , and well, ladies just sharing their brilliant insight , are 25 of the most common fantasies women have. Both giving and receiving head came up as a top fantasy in one study.
Meanwhile, receiving oral might make you feel like a pampered queen in her throne or a thoroughly ravaged snack. The thrill of sex in a public or semi-public place has long been a popular fantasy: dark alleys, public bathrooms, and movie theaters are common choices. The thrill of getting caught is one commonly cited reason, as is a general interest in exhibitionism. A word of warning: Having sex out in the open can be a risky endeavor for both your criminal record and for the wellbeing of passersby, so it might be better left a fantasy.
You can be perfectly happy with your partner and still find something electrically exciting about the idea of cheating on them. It could be the danger of getting caught that draws you in, the freshness of a new sexual connection, or something else entirely. But if you do, maybe some form of ethical non-monogamy is an avenue you should explore. Missionary might do it for some, but for others, pegging is a big turn-on.
For those who aren't familiar, pegging is where a woman has anal sex with someone using a strap-on, and—for those who are game—it can be a surefire way to flip the script on vanilla sex. Hot tip: It's not for everyone, but if you're intrigued, talk to your S. Fifty Shades of Grey normalized this fantasy more widely than ever before; one study found 65 percent of women crave being dominated. While not as socially sanctioned for women as submissiveness, fantasies of being in control in the bedroom are super fun and quite common, with 47 percent of women admitting to having had this fantasy.
It can be incredibly hot to call the shots during sex, especially in a culture that systematically tries to strip women of our power both in and out of the bedroom. Do your research on this one before acting it out, though. There are a lot of ways bondage can go wrong, in an actually dangerous and not just kinky-dangerous manner. Blindfolds are one easy way to explore this avenue.
